A world where no woman has to mother alone
The village you didn’t think you had
Are You a Motherless Mother?
Every one of us has lived this. You don’t have to do it alone.
There’s a seat for you at our table.
Supper clubs and meetups running across the UK. Come as you are.
MOTHER LOSS AWARENESS DAY · 23 OCTOBER
Missing mothers.
Missing moments.
#Unmuted.
Mother Loss Awareness Day is an important opportunity to recognise women navigating motherhood without their own mothers by their side. It is wonderful to see women coming together to build their own networks of support, so no mother has to feel alone in navigating that loss.
Kevin Hollinrake MP, North Yorkshire
Host your own
Mother Loss Awareness Day evening, honouring the missing space in your lives.
We are motherless mothers who found each other in the shared silence of our journeys. We build the village you didn't think you had, bringing together your personal experience and our community so you never have to carry the weight alone.
"Grief-Aware Care™ was born from my own experience of navigating motherhood without my mum. It was created to guide clinicians, employers, and society on how to truly see and support motherless mothers."
- Adina Belloli, Co-Founder
HOST AN EVENING
Bring snacks. We'll bring the questions.
Nobody at the school gate asks who you rang first when the baby arrived. These cards do. Download them, invite a few friends round, and give the conversation the evening it deserves. Tissues optional. Biscuits strongly advised.
Print them at home, pour something nice, and invite your people round.
How the evening works
Everyone starts with a flower card. Take turns drawing a question. Answer it out loud or pass it to someone else. Some you'll want to keep to yourself, and that's fine too. When someone's answer moves you, give them your flower. When the last card's drawn, take a moment for the seat that's empty, and for everyone who helped fill this one.
Who to invite
Any mother living without her own mum to lean on. Her mum may have died, or be poorly, far away, or someone she's had to step back from. Every one of those stories belongs at this table. And if you love someone living with mother loss, you belong here too. You won't answer every card. Listening well and handing over your flower at the right moment counts for a lot.
Before you start
Some cards will bring things up. That's part of it. Nobody has to answer anything, and passing is always allowed. If the evening stirs up more than you expected, our community is here for you. Click here if you need support.
The Hidden Crisis of Motherless Mothers
TMM is on a mission to make maternal care Grief-Aware™
Grief-Aware Care™ is a framework developed by Adina Belloli, Co-Founder of The Motherless Mothers charity and community.
Support
Peer groups, drop-ins, BACP counselling, and local villages built around you.
Representation
Making sure every kind of loss, bereavement, estrangement, or absence, is seen and valued.
Empowerment
Teaching clinicians, employers, and systems how to offer Grief-Aware Care™.
“It hadn’t even occurred to me to look up a community online, but I was delighted to see TMM. I’ve listened to all the podcast episodes and feel genuinely seen, heard and understood.”
“It’s lovely to find out my feelings are not weird and getting through motherhood without a mum is a big deal. I strongly believe connection is a key to feeling stronger. I feel better already just hearing from others.”
“When you've lost your mum, it's not just the anniversaries or big things that make you miss her. Something fascinates you, or makes you laugh and your instinct is to share with her, to see her smile, or hear her laugh... Loss catches you, sometimes when you're least expecting it."
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